In todays world we are surrounded by an energetic and dynamic world, which constantly evolves and improves. We as humans have to keep up with all the changes and the speed they change at. This is one of the reasons we are constantly bombarded with updates and trainings to become faster and better at our jobs. Naturally this competition leads to a lot of stress.
I barely know anyone who doesn’t live under the influence of daily stress anymore. Of course we try to lower the levels of stress impacting us and there are several of us, who try to find the newest and best ‘coping with stress strategies‘.
When I started my first proper job, I discovered the true meaning of stress. Sure I had certain moments when I felt under pressure, when I was younger, such as running for a bus or being late for an appointment and most of all during academic exams.
But these don’t even get close to the stress situations I face during the years of my first job.
How Stress Influences Us
The worst thing about stress is that it doesn’t just last for a short period of time. Here’s how it took over during my day and I’m sure most of you could relate to it equally:
- Alarm goes off, I’m still tired so I snooze, knowing I won’t fall back asleep but just rest my eyes while thinking I should get up soon
- After snoozing the alarm several times I already know I’m slightly behind schedule, so I start rushing to the bathroom (first moment of stress)
- Finally dressed, driving to work and being stuck in traffic (next moment of stress, even if I would arrive on time)
- Get to my office and start doing the morning tasks, checking emails, answering phone calls etc. (that’s when the mother of Stress arrived and won’t leave me for the rest of the day, not even during lunch as I know what’s coming after lunch)
- Once I’m done with work and my clothes are drenched of nervous sweat, I finally get home and the next wave of passive stress arrives. Cook dinner, maybe rush to the shops before, to get some groceries, clean up after eating, try to relax for 1 hour before bed and the days over.
And this routine went on for several years. I’m sure a lot of you face the same issues like I said, but that’s (sadly) the routine of modern life. Luckily I wasn’t someone that got a lot of migraines and headaches. I only had to take painkillers once or twice as far as I remember.
Deal With Your Stress
When people face stress issues, they’re always being told how to deal with it, or how to cope with it. Some people suggest meditating whereas others give the advice to take a deep breath.
I think most of us take holidays to escape the real world and forget about things for a while. For me that hardly ever worked, because I always had this passive counter in my head telling me “only 4 more days and you have to get back to work”.
On top of that I would get back from my holiday and I would have to buy more groceries before work, wash all my clothes in order to have fresh ones for work etc. and the stress started, even before I was back in my routine.
I also saw a presentation of a woman that taught people to see stress as a positive thing. Because although it is very bad for your health, with a few exercises you could turn it around and use it as a benefit.
Certain reasons included:
- Release of the oxytocin hormone which makes us more social.
- Pounding heart which makes you prepared for action. If you embrace stress, your blood vessels don’t constrict but stay relaxed, which makes it a benefit to you.
- And other benefits not worth mentioning as they relate to the above two points working together.
So we are now taught to live and embrace our stress, in order to function effectively and not get fatal illnesses through them.
Why Not Eliminate Stress ?
Here’s where I get confused with the entire story. Why are we being taught to cope or live with our stressful situations. When I’m facing a stressful moment I would rather not be stressed than having to teach myself certain exercises to be able to simply ‘cope’ with it.
Why are we not allowed to get away from the stress and live a simple comfortable life that doesn’t require stress training. Surely that must be healthier?
In the past few days I’ve felt so relaxed and at ease not having to do tasks at work, I really cannot be bothered to. The last few days before I resigned I cared less about getting in late or having to meet deadlines and guess what… I felt a lot better and less stressed.
This is why I am now devoting myself 100% to affiliate marketing. I don’t like being stressed, I never did. I enjoy being relaxed and taking my time with things. This is what affiliate marketing has taught me. That I am capable of living a stress free lifestyle and that’s what I want to be doing for the rest of my life.
What Does A Stress Free Life Look Like?
It’s funny that I even had to ask myself this question but, at one point I almost became immune like most people are now, towards the reality of living a stressful life.
Weekends were the weekly escape of the uncomfortable environment of work and Saturdays became the chore days. On Sundays the house needed cleaning and forced relaxation were on the menu as well, as it was the daunting day before to globally hated Monday!
Here’s how I like to spend my new time:
- Do the chores once a week as before, but waking up comfortably without an alarm is priceless, it almost brings tears to my eyes.
- Being able to sort governmental stuff out without rushing in and out of my office during lunch but on my own pace and time.
- Cooking and eating my own meals (no more sandwiches for lunch)
- Being able to exercise during the day
- Being able to benefit from the sun!
When I was stuck in my office looking outside the window seeing the birds sing and the sun burning the concrete, while I was stuck inside in a suit and leather shoes, that really put me over the edge!
So these are my coping strategies stress needs: Elimination!
Don’t try to cope with it get rid of it!
I know I am no where near of being able to say that I’m a wealthy affiliate marketer and that my life is amazing now, but it is a whole lot better than before and I am a lot less grumpy and miserable already.
It’s actually quite scary how much a job can influence your personality. Anyone that knows me, knows I’m a very joyful character and silly a lot of the time. But when I was thrown in a pool of stress, a lot of the times that joy and silliness disappeared.
Now I’m happy I found a solution to the problem and I don’t see myself going back. I hope to have encouraged some of you which feel the same way, to at least give it a try. Maybe affiliate marketing isn’t your field but there are so many other better options than sitting in an office.
Thanks for reading and I hope you take this into consideration at least. Feel free to leave behind comments and share your thoughts!